Not long after noon this past Tuesday, my grandmother Constance died at the age of 98. She was my father’s mother, the last of my grandparents to die. At this point, if I were to start with me and trace the tree diagrams of my mother’s and father’s families all the way back to their root elements, my only living ancestor is my father.
It is always sad when a loved one dies, but it’s what she wanted, and I respect that decision without reservation. Her health and physical abilities had deteriorated greatly, and she was tired in a way that I cannot hope to comprehend. She had seen her children grow up and have their own children, and then become grandparents of their own. Her life had been long, her joys and sorrows beyond counting. She was ready to call an end. In many ways, she had been ever since losing her husband a little over three years ago.
Tomorrow we go to join the gathering family. I think Grammy would have wanted nothing else but that: the family together, forming a great circle of strength and love in which each of us can shelter.